After the Argument

Couples arguing…a common occurrence…you’ve just had a huge blow-up between you and your spouse and now the situation is relatively calm. You went to do your activities and your spouse went somewhere else in the house. As time moves on do you bring the issue up again and risk another blow-up, or let it go […]

After An Affair

So the affair is out in the open now. This is only the beginning. You might have difficulty imagining this, but you can work your way through this. It will take time and effort, and a lot of patience and understanding, as well as love and a kind of forgiveness. Your world is probably in […]

Allow Time To Cool Off

Married life is not all peaches and cream. I’m sure you have realized that by now. That being said, there are going to be good times and bad times. Some married couples frequently deal with anger issues, and others may have issues at occasional times in their lives with anger. If you and your spouse […]

Betrayed by Spouse

Finding out your spouse had an affair is a terrible experience. You have just been dropped into emotional turmoil, unsure of which way is up or down, no telling what to do, no clue of whom to go to. You’ve Been Betrayed by Your Cheating Spouse Your spouse cheated and lied, and now you’re left […]

Letting Go of Infidelity

I have been asked in the past if it is possible to let go of infidelity and work on repairing the relationship (without working through the steps to deal with the affair). This is an important point. Infidelity stems from somewhere, and if a couple wishes to move past the affair, they must work through […]

Infidelity Begins Small

Infidelity begins long before the discovery of the extra-marital affair. No matter whether one or both of you had an affair, if you are now trying to heal, the cheater will need to adjust his or her thinking and behavior to avoid the temptation to act this way again. You never really know what someone […]

Pre-Marital Promises

There are two unrealistic pre-marital promises about having an affair. Perhaps there are more than two promises that dating couples make about potential marital infidelity, but these are the two I commonly encounter. Common Pre-Marital Promises About Marital Affairs Here are the two common unrealistic pre-marital promises about infidelity: “If I ever even think about […]

Keep Away From Infidelity

The further you stay away from anything that even slightly may lead to infidelity, the better off you will be. I often get couples in my office for counseling after an affair. Many times, the spouse who had an affair did not start out looking to cheat on his or her spouse. There were little […]

Is Your Marriage Over?

Once infidelity is revealed in your marriage have no doubt that your spouse is nothing short of devastated. While it used to be that when the word “infidelity” was heard it was automatically linked to the male, that is no longer the case. Both men and women are sharing an almost equal role in committing […]

Avoid Love At Work

You want to stay away from love at the office or setting up a work spouse. This situation, while not immediately damaging, can harm your marriage in the long run. Work Relationship Only Some may argue that it is a work relationship and not a personal relationship. Therefore it shouldn’t matter. This is a fallacy. […]