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How To Stop Marriage Anger

Eliminating the Angry Feelings in Your Marriage

How do you stop anger against your spouse?
Do you have the experience of trying to keep from getting angry, but it boils over anyway?
Does it seem that your spouse is working against you instead of on the same team?

Sometimes angry feelings ebb and flow only erupting occasionally. Or anger can eat at you while you hold on to it as resentment or bitterness affecting your health and well-being. Others might not even know your feelings. Have your bad feelings been building for a while? Perhaps a very long while?

Being mad over and over again at your spouse, and feeling resentful in your relationship can destroy it, either directly or indirectly.

Anger is only One Letter Short of Danger


“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth…”
-Joan Lunden

Different Method for Avoiding Anger

What can you do about being angry; after all, isn’t that a natural feeling?

There are many anger management classes, even online. You can find therapy to control your temper, and ideas for rage prevention, but I have a different approach. I can teach you how to eliminate and mostly stop anger in your life. You don’t need it. This method involves a different mindset.

When you are incensed and involved in the moment sometimes you misjudge the behavior of others or have mistaken ideas about the intentions of the other person in the situation.

Learn how to turn your thoughts around so you don’t lose control of your feelings. Through years of doing marriage counseling and helping couples to improve their marriages, I find that the best approach in most situations is to not get angry in the first place.

You are probably wondering how that is possible. You might not notice, but thinking precedes feeling. The thinking part can happen so quickly that you don’t even notice it, and it feels as if you went from the situation directly to a feeling. A well-practiced thought, which would be an attitude, creates this seemingly instantaneous feeling. Thoughts can be changed.

Change Your Thinking, Then Your Feelings Will Change Too

You can change your thinking or your perception of the situation, and in so doing, you can change your feelings, and then you will find it far easier to not get angry in the first place.

I can help you do this; I have helped countless people learn to change their thinking and their feeling resulting in less anger and less problems. Please contact me to learn more.

Wishing you a life where you find out that you don’t need to be angry to get what you want,