I was moved by your story and sadly I agree with your assessment that whatever you do at this point may be too late. Otherwise, I might have suggested you both watch my YouTube: Don’t Throw Away Your Marriage on the worth of maintaining your marriage.
Also, I might have referred both of you to an article about fixing your marriage at Fix An Unhappy Marriage. In this article, I share a link to a story about how a man fixed his own marriage single-handedly. He has a fascinating story to tell and you might want to read it anyway. Even now, if you could get her to read this article, also, and you could commit yourself to doing like he did, you might be able to impact your situation in a good way.
My best wishes go out to you in putting your life back together.
A personal note to readers of this response Like many others in failed marriages, "Too Late" probably downplayed the seriousness of his situation. We all want to be "normal" and in doing so we often consider our own problems much like everyone else's until they reach the seriousness of an affair or divorce. If you are having problems in your marriage, I urge you to have at least one appointment with a seasoned Marriage Friendly Therapist to help you understand where you are on the larger continuum of couples with marital problems.
In particular, you could benefit from ongoing marriage counseling if either of you is experiencing sexual thoughts about others, frequent angry outbursts, or you think your partner is too dense or too uninterested to understand you.
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