We have been together off/on for sixteen years. [We] married two and a half years ago (second marriages). He was forced to retire two years ago. [He] claims to do nothing all day. When I come home from work he's always tired. I go to bed, [and] he's awake on the computer or phone. [He] has no known medical problems. What do you think is going on?
-Worried Wife in Minnesota
Dear Worried Wife,
Pardon me for being blunt, but the problem seems to me that you are putting up with his outrageous behavior. He's a grown man acting like a teenager, and as if you're the mom.
I wish you all the best in resolving your dilemma,
If you want to work with me, I offer marriage counseling in Maryland, to couples from all over the world. I am intentionally out-of-network for all insurance plans. My fees are based on $260 per hour, with a 45 minute session costing $195. I also have self-help programs available.