You've lost that lovin feeling? You can get it back.
Do you feel that you've lost that loving feeling in your marriage? This is the first of a three part article to help you get back the love in your marriage. Please also see:
Rekindle the Love in your Marriage
. You Can Fix Your Unhappy Marriage
Have you lost that "in love" feeling and lost romance in your relationship? Has your spouse?
Are you wondering what happened to the romance, passion
and pleasure in your marriage? Rediscover those loving feelings, and
create a relationship that is not just "as good as it used
to be", but better than ever! In my experience, love between a married couple rarely disappears. Instead, that loving feeling is just hiding - hiding behind feelings of anger, resentment, abandonment, loneliness, and neglect.
Bring back the love! It is possible if you are willing to do the work.
Just a few changes can put you well on your journey to get the love and romance back in your marriage. Perhaps one or both of you is taking the other for granted, giving less attention to the person, who should be the most important person in your life, than you do your neighbors or casual friends.
Remember the song You've Lost That Loving Feeling by the Righteous Brothers and the same song about lost love but a newer version by Hall and Oates. Don't let your relationship end up like that. It is just too painful and has many other ramifications and complications. If you are both willing, you can probably fix your marriage. Here are some suggestions to get you started, to help you recapture the romance, the happiness and excitement in your marriage.
Tell Your Spouse What You Want.
Talk to your partner. Acknowledge the problem and your commitment to change things. Say you want to change your relationship and will do what it
takes to achieve an intimate, fulfilling relationship. Focus on positive goals. Limit complaints.
"I feel we've lost that loving feeling, and I want it back! I want our relationship to be the best, not just as good as it once was, but better than ever. I will do what it takes to restore the love in our marriage."
"I'm sick and tired of the way you treat me. You need
Some couples can take an idea or suggestion and make it work for them without further relationship help. For those of you who want marriage help to understand step-by-step how to put these ideas into practice, I refer you to my programs. See the links to the left in the box titled Books by Dr. Gunzburg. See the links at the top of this page to order free e-courses.
You want to learn more ways to bring back the passion and romance in your
relationship? Click here for
Rekindle the Love in your Marriage?
You Can Fix Your Unhappy Marriage
NOTE: If you feel your marriage has
deteriorated beyond these suggestions, please
go to the section on Stop