How To Stop Marriage Anger
How do you stop Anger against your spouse? Do you have the experience of trying to keep from getting angry, but it boils over anyway? Does it seem that your spouse is working against you instead of on the same team? Sometimes it ebbs and flows only erupting occasionally. Or it can eat at you while you hold on to it as resentment or bitterness affecting your health and well being while others might not even know your feelings. Have your bad feelings been building for a while? Perhaps a very long while?
Being mad over and over again at your spouse, and feeling resentful in your relationship can destroy it, either directly or indirectly.
"Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. . ."
--Joan Lunden
What can you do about being angry; after all, isn't that a natural feeling? There are many anger management classes, even online. You can find therapy to control your temper, and ideas for rage prevention, but I have a different approach. I can teach you how to eliminate and stop the anger in your life. You don't need it. This method involves a different mindset.
When you are incensed and all involved in the moment sometimes you misjudge the behavior of others or have a mistaken view of the situation.
Learn how to turn your thoughts around so you don't lose control of your feelings. Through years of doing marriage counseling and helping couples to improve their marriages, I find that the best approach in most situations is to not get angry in the first place.
You are probably wondering how that is possible. Thinking precedes feeling. The thinking part can happen so quickly that you don't even notice it, and it feels as if you went from the situation directly to a feeling. A well-practiced thought, which would be an attitude, creates this seemingly instantaneous feeling. Thoughts can be changed.
I will teach you how to change your thinking, and then your feelings will change, too. You might want to look at Three Steps to Follow for a Couple Arguing and Improving Arguing Behavior for Couples.
I am a licensed psychologist practicing in the state of Maryland for well over 30 years. I am also a Registered Marriage Friendly Therapist.
My fees are based on $260 per hour.
I do telephone counseling with people across the United States and from around the world-only in English. You can reach me at 410-654-1300 or toll-free 1-866-654-1300.
Wishing you a life where you find out that you don't need to be angry to get what you want.
Frank Gunzburg, Ph.D., P.A.
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