I Love You But I Am No Longer in Love

I Love You, but I'm Not "in Love" with You Anymore:

I often hear a spouse say, "I love you, but I am not "in love" with you anymore." Too often marriages settle down and the feelings that were once experienced develop on a different level. That hot, intense and fiery passion dwindles.

That fire can be snuffed out by any combination of kids, finances, work, physical condition, an extramarital affair and family issues.

Can you remember back in the beginning when you saw your partner sleeping and were filled with feelings of almost uncontainable love? I see this change in too many couples where through the years, those feelings morph and what was once that uncontainable love-excitement turns into one of "ho-hum" and taking each other for granted.

Sometimes this makes people develop what I refer to as the brother-sister syndrome.

You love your spouse and say to yourself you would never want to hurt that person, but you feel like you are no longer in love with the person you married.

If this has happened to you, you might be thinking your marriage is over because, after all, how can you get your passion back.

What you are overlooking is that your love is still present. Your spark is still there. It is not dead. You just haven't nurtured it. I would also guess that you have built-up anger and resentment that you may have been stockpiling for years.

All of these factors work collectively against passionate love in your marriage, and make you feel as if the sexual heat of your marriage were dead.You don't need to throw away your relationship. You need to learn new relationship skills so you can restore your relationship. You could start by reading Rekindle the Romance in Your Marriage or by signing up for my free e-course Saving Your Marriage.