Do You Have Marriage Intimacy Problems?

Do You Have Marriage Intimacy Problems?

Are marriage intimacy problems hurting your relationship? Remember when you were first with your spouse, you felt all the initial intimacy, love and romance. You probably started thinking, "This is the one for me!" Back then you could not wait to be with your love again and you anxiously awaited each new contact.

Do you still have intimacy & love in your marriage?

Most couples who come to see me have been putting up with a loss of marriage intimacy, emotional and/or physical, for a long time. Sometimes one person notices the lack of intimacy and sometimes both spouses notice. Sometimes, one person has been putting up with a loss of intimacy and other problem behaviors because of the love bond and the hope that things will get better in the future. You might even have tried to normalize your situation over time, by saying "Oh, everyone goes through this."

After marriage, intimacy and romance too often take a backseat.

The everyday demands of work, bills, laundry, home maintenance, family, and the other responsibilities of living become more demanding than spending time with your spouse. Intimacy and romance are nothing more than vague memories. Even when you plan time together you end up moving it aside in favor of other obligations.

Suggestions for turning your priorites around to regain intimacy in your marriage.

• Make your spouse feel special.
• send an "I love you" text
• compliment your spouse's appearance
• do a chore your spouse doesn't like
• Have conversations together-allow time for talking
• go for a walk & talk together
• sit on the porch, watch the sunset & talk about the day
• try this communication exercise for your marriage
• Be open & honest about where you are and your activities
• call if you are going to be late
• don't hide your cell phone
• tell your spouse where you are going & what you are doing
• Have fun together-don't compare your fun to other couples

• arrange dates to go out together
• play a board game or sports together
• go out to lunch
• Be affectionate with words and touch
• hold hands
• cuddle and make-out
• stroke your spouse's hair or face

You can find other easy ways to increase intimacy in my program, Saving Your Marriage. Take the time and effort to open the door of opportunity towards intimacy. Taking charge of your relationship in a positive way can lead you to a marriage that is better than ever.

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