Lost that loving
feeling 4-Develop a Better Than Ever Marriage Now
Lost that loving feeling?
(This is the fourth of a four part article
to help couples who feel they’ve
lost that loving feeling in their marriage.
Please also see Lost
That Loving Feeling #1, Lost
That Loving Feeling #2 and Lost
That Loving Feeling #3
Lost that loving feeling?
If you’ve lost that loving feeling
in your marriage, here are some more ways
to bring back the love in your relationship:
Lost That Loving feeling?
Lower Your
Expectations
Yes, you can develop a better-than-ever
marriage even though right now it feels
like you’ve lost that loving feeling.
But if you’re demanding perfection
of your spouse – or yourself –
you will both be disappointed. Focus on
the positive things you like about each
other and find ways to better meet each
other’s needs. Stop looking for
the flaws – you will always find
them! – and start appreciating your
spouse’s good qualities.
Try: “I like it
when you greet me at the door with a kiss.
It makes me feel really welcome and special
in your life. Why am I telling you this?
I fear we’ve lost that loving feeling
in our marriage, and I want it back!”
Avoid: “What’s
with you? The dog greets me better than
you do. You don’t even care that
I’m home. What’s the matter
with you? Things sure aren’t the
way they used to be.”
Lost that loving feeling?
Have Fun
Pursue enjoyable activities together.
Limit “serious” talk during
those occasions. Spend time together in
ways that make you laugh, relax, appreciate
being with each other.
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