Lost that loving
feeling 2
Lost that loving feeling?
(This is the second of a four part article
to help couples who feel they’ve
lost that loving feeling in their marriage.
Please also see Lost
That Loving Feeling #1, Lost
That Loving Feeling #3 and Lost
That Loving Feeling #4
Lost that loving feeling?
Bring back the love with some of these
suggestions to help you recapture the
happiness and excitement in your marriage
Lost That Loving feeling?
Tell Your
Spouse What You Need
Restore lost loving feelings by sharing
your needs with your husband or wife.
Each of us has different needs, and they’re
often very different than our partner’s.
What does your spouse need from you to
feel loved? What do you need from your
spouse to restore the loving feeling in
your marriage?
Try: “I want you
to pay more attention to me. I want more
time alone with you. It seems like we’ve
lost that loving feeling in our marriage,
and more ‘us” time will help
restore those loving feelings.”
Avoid: “Why do
you always put me last? You spend time
with everyone but me.”
Lost that loving feeling?
Be Specific
About What You Want and Need
If you’ve lost that loving feeling,
help your spouse understand your needs
by defining them. What’s your idea
of romance? A candlelit dinner? A walk
on the beach? Breakfast in bed? Holding
hands while watching a football game?
The better you explain your needs, the
better your partner can meet them.
Try: “I think we’ve
lost that loving feeling in our marriage,
and I want to get it back. I would like
you to ask me more questions about my
day.”
Avoid: “We never
talk any more! Am I that boring to you?”
|
