How To Deal With A Jealous Spouse
Are you dealing with a jealous spouse?
With a jealous spouse there will be feelings of frustration and worry. Your marriage is bound to be in trouble. I'
m referring to a situation where your spouse is jealous even though you think you have not given any cause for jealousy. You are in a difficult position. It might help for you both to read Why Do I Have Insecurity in My Relationship to determine the type of jealousy.
Jealousy shows up in many forms.
If you are at the receiving end of jealous fits of rage, you probably feel afraid, disrespected, and like you have to walk on eggshells around your spouse. You are one half of a marriage and both halves have to be functioning with compassion, love, and respect in order to ensure success. Someone has to begin the process of healing. Some ideas for this are presented in How to Deal with Jealousy in Marriage
Look at Your Own Behavior
Maybe you are causing jealousy and not realizing it. I suggest you observe your own actions to help get your marriage back on track:
- Do you act flirtatious with the opposite sex?
- Do you dress seductively?
- Are you evasive in answering your spouse's questions?
- Do you use improper body language around members of the opposite sex?
- Do you come home late without calling?
- Do you mingle with the opposite sex without your spouse present?
- Do you hide your cell phone?
- Do you take phone calls in private?
- Are you more attentive to others than your own spouse?
If you have any of these behaviors you can learn more about solutions at
Jealous Spouses Are in Emotional Pain
Jealousy is pain that your spouse doesn'
t want and probably recognizes the jealousy as destructive. You can help:
- You can understand your spouse'
s pain and express your understanding.
- You can look honestly at your own behavior to see if you are causing jealousy.
- Help your spouse open up lines of communication and openly share feelings.
- Try this Communication Exercise for your Marriage.
Then you will have gone a long way to healing the jealousy.
These ideas are difficult to implement. And it may not even be possible for you right now. If you have difficulty putting my advice into action, you will find in both Saving Your Marriage and in Survive An Affair step-by-step instructions to understanding your spouse'
s pain and for opening up your communication and what to do next. 
I wish you all success in creating a wonderful marriage together,
Frank Gunzburg, Ph.D.
410-654-1300
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