Infidelity Destroys Trust
Having an extramarital affair destroys trust. Trust is not
something one partner can give to another.
You can beg or demand your spouse to “trust
me!” ten or a thousand times without
effect. Trust is something we feel or don’t
feel. Our ability to trust – or to
be trustworthy – may be shaped by
our pasts, but if you or your spouse has
been guilty of infidelity, nothing can save
you from this fact:
Trust died with the infidelity, and it will
take a major effort from both of you to
restore trust in your marriage.
Think of your marriage as a love/trust bank
account. Each “good” thing you
do adds to the bank account and each “misdeed”
is a withdrawal—some larger, some
smaller.
Infidelity does more than deplete the account
– infidelity creates a deficit. Infidelity
bounces “trust” checks.
Marriages can survive -- and even thrive
after – infidelity, just as credit
ratings can be restored and bankrupt millionaires
can transform into billionaires. But none
of these comebacks happens by accident or
by “forgetting”
the debts.
Through marriage counseling, by phone or
in person, I can help you repair your marriage and show you how to rebuild the trust.
Another option is to purchase an e-book that I wrote with step-by-step instructions for How To Survive An Affair. Please see the links to the left for books that I have written and for two mini e-courses that are free.
To continue the overview, select the appropriate link below:
Are you guilty of infidelity and want to
learn more about surviving infidelity and
recovering from a trust deficit in your
marriage? Then you will want to read So you Had an Affair and You Want to Repair Your Marriage.
Is your spouse guilty of infidelity? Then,
you can learn how to recover from your spouse’s
infidelity by reading You’ve Been Betrayed By Your Spouse Having An Affair
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