Marriage Help After An Extramarital Affair

Is Infidelity the Death of Your Marriage?

Are you wondering if it’s possible for you to recover your marriage after an extra-marital affair or is it now dead? Infidelity is a serious, devastating betrayal to most people who unexpectedly find out about the third person in the triangle. There is not a simple answer as to whether or not you can get your marriage back.

There is hope after an extra-marital affair, if. . .

Let me explain with an analogy. Think about someone who recently had a heart attack and he wants to know if he will survive and return to health. Some of the people who have a heart attack have abused their bodies by eating to the point of gross obesity, neglected eating the proper foods, and by being couch potatoes. Some of these people had other medical conditions they were not properly treating.

Others who had a heart attack might not find an obvious lifestyle explanation for what happened. This person is in the normal weight range and does regular exercise. Usually, the cardiologist can determine the hidden risk factors and point them out to the patient.

Think of an “affair attack” like a heart attack on your marriage.

Perhaps you’re the one who had the “affair attack” when you found out your spouse was unfaithful. As you look back, you might find obvious problems in your relationship: emotional and demeaning arguments, not treating each other as special in your life, or developing interests or social groups that exclude your spouse.

Sometimes you think all is okay before you find out about an extra-marital affair.

For others of you, you will feel as if you were blindsided because you thought your marriage was at least “okay” or even better, perhaps “really good.” You can’t find any compelling “reasons” that your spouse would cheat. Of course, there is no justifiable reason for infidelity anyway, but some people are quite creative in delivering an argument to try to justify an extra-marital affair, and even sometimes make you, the non-cheating partner, feel guilty.

Please click on the links below for more information on how to save your marriage after an affair:

Infidelity Destroys Trust,
So You Had An Affair And You Want to Repair Your Marriage ,
You've Been Betrayed By Your Spouse Having An Affair
Infidelity Doesn't Have to Mean that Your Marriage is Over