Infidelity Destroys Trust
It goes without saying that an extra-marital affair destroys trust. You have to live a life of being trustworthy to provide authentic trust. It is not something one partner can "give" to the other.
You Earn Trust over Time.
Your spouse can beg or demand you to "trust me!" ten or a thousand times without effect. Trust is something we either feel or don't feel. Our ability to trust may be shaped by our pasts, but if you or your spouse has been guilty of infidelity, nothing can save you from this fact: Trust died with the infidelity. Now it will take a major effort from both of you to restore trust in your marriage.
You Create a Love and Trust "Bank Account."
Think of your marriage as a love and trust bank account. Each "good" thing you do adds to the bank account and each "misdeed" is a withdrawal-some larger, some smaller.
Infidelity does more than partially deplete the account - infidelity creates a deficit, usually to the point of emotional-trust bankruptcy.
Just as credit ratings can be restored and someone who went bankrupt can transform into a financial success, so too can a marriage survive, and even thrive, after infidelity. A comeback like this doesn't happen by accident or by glossing over the situations that got you into trouble in the first place.
Many Marriages Survive Infidelity.
I can help you repair your marriage and show you how to rebuild your trust. I help you go through the steps to deal with the wounds and create a better marriage.
If you cannot afford my $260 per hour fee for marriage counseling, you can start with a free eCourse, or directly purchase my self-help programs for less than the cost of one hour with me. There are links on this page on the left for these programs. The free e-course links are at the top of the page.
Learn More.
To continue learning about marital infidelity, select the appropriate link below:
Are you the one guilty of having an extra-marital affair and now you want to learn how to keep your relationship together and recover from the trust deficit you created in your marriage? Information is here:
So you Had an Extra-marital Affair and You Want to Repair Your Marriage.
If you are the one who was betrayed, you can learn steps you can take to recover from your spouse's unfaithfulness by reading the information at this link:
You've Been Betrayed By Your Spouse Having An Affair
