Stop
Divorce Through Honesty, Tip 2
Stop divorce by restoring honesty in your
relationship. In a previous Stop divorce
article (Stop Divorce,
Tip
1) you learned that honesty is more
than the absence of lies.
If you lie, here are four questions you
can ask yourself to help you restore honesty
in your relationship and stop divorce:
1. Do I have any valid reason for lying?
Truth can Stop Divorce
If you are lying to protect your physical
safety – or the safety of your loved
ones – then you don’t need to
stop lying, you need to remove yourself
from an unsafe environment. Whether you
stop divorce or not, you should make safety
your top priority.
2. Am I lying to cover up something I know
is wrong? Ending Deception can Stop Divorce
If you value your marriage and want to stop
divorce, it’s time to face the truth.
A true partnership can not exist on a foundation
of lies. Commit to telling the truth –
and nothing but – without concern
for the consequences if you want to stop
divorce.
3. Even if I am not lying, am I shutting
out my partner with defensive postures?
Openness can stop divorce.
If you do everything BUT lie – avoid
questions, push your spouse away with anger
or silence – you need to stop divorce
by examining your behavior and motives.
4. Am I willing to take the risk –
and reap the rewards – of an honest
marriage? Honesty can stop divorce.
It can be scary to tell the truth to your
spouse even if you’re “innocent.”
Your childhood might have set you up for
a pattern of protecting yourself –
your ego, your self-esteem – by assorted
dishonest means. You CAN stop divorce and
have a close, loving, passionate relationship
with your spouse, but honesty is the key.
Trust is an essential ingredient and can’t
be built on a foundation of lies. And a
shaky foundation – built on deception
and avoidance – will eventually crumble.
Stop divorce by working hard to be honest
with yourself and your spouse.
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Divorce, Tip 1? Find out more ways to
stop divorce by visiting
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