Better Communication in Marriage

Communication in Marriage-Connect With Your Spouse

Communication in marriage is not just about the words you use. Some other aspects of communication are:

• your tone of voice
• what you say and how you say it
• your body language and posture
• where your eyes are looking
• your facial expressions
• your touch or caress

Typically, you might learn about communication in marriage by watching and listening to your parents as you are growing up.

You might also observe the communication of your friends' parents and couples you see in movies or read about in books. Sometimes what you learn is effective and sometimes what you learn is unhealthy, ineffective and even hurtful at times.

Mostly, though, when you have trouble in your relationship, you probably scratch your head in wonder, thinking, "How could my spouse be so dumb about understanding me?" You might wonder, too, how communication in a marriage is so different when you are one of the spouses rather than an observer.

You probably had some unrealistic expectations for your spouse before marriage.

Currently, though, it seems that some alien has taken over your mind or your partner's mind and communication between the two of you is as if you were living in different worlds-you can't even agree on what just happened between you.

You recognize the problem. Now you want to know what to do about it.

There are many exercises I use with couples to teach intimate and accurate communication. These are written about in detail in my programs Survive An Affair and in Saving Your Marriage,. Let me share one with you that you might try on your own with your spouse. This communication exercise for your marriage will be my next free marriage tip.