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Building Fences to Save Your Marriage, Part 1
Save your marriage by keeping danger out and love within. If you heard your neighbor's dog had run away when the owners left the gate open, whom would you hold responsible, the dog or your neighbor?
Save your marriage by building a fence around your relationship. If you found out your neighbor had an affair with the tall, handsome, muscular French tutor her husband had hired on her behalf, would you wonder "how could it happen?" or "why didn't the husband hire a fat ugly tutor instead?"
Save your marriage by building the fence one picket at a time. If there are a lot of holes in your marital fence, you can't fix them all at once. Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Save Your Marriage, First Suggestion
Save your marriage by showering your spouse with the three "A"s - Adoration, Attention and Appreciation.
Are you your spouse's number one fan? If not, it's time to save your marriage by donning your cheerleading outfit and doing the wave.
Consider this example of a relationship problem:
Mary was upset that her husband, Stephen, was "interested" in one of his coworkers.
Stephen insisted he wasn't having an affair-- and Mary believed him--but she was distraught to know that her husband was attracted to someone else.
"I don't understand it, Stephen. What do you see in this other woman? I mean, all the time you tell me I'm beautiful and smart and witty. You even tell me how sexy I am. So what is it about the other woman that fascinates you so much?
Stephen answered carefully.
"Because, Mary, I tell you - honestly - that you are all those things - funny and beautiful and sexy. But when is the last time you said something like that to me? What I like about Judy is that she compliments me. She seems to think I am somebody special."
Save Your Marriage: Become your spouse's number one fan - before someone else does!
Save Your Marriage: Praise your spouse often, and be as specific as possible.
Save Your Marriage: Remind your spouse about the qualities you most admire. The need to be appreciated is important, so express thanks, congratulations and compliments frequently.
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